I have grown in my spirituality exponentially. Where I used to allow myself to be someone's doormat, I am no longer that person today. I have grown so much in my life.
What you permit in your life you have to take accountability for. You are the only one who can change and put up some boundaries in your life and keep them.
I was a woman who would chase after the love I so desparately wanted. I realize now I had been chasing my entire life. If a person keeps chasing a man even when the man does not put in the effort she needs from him in the relationship, she does not have enough self worth. She puts the partner above herself and refuses to give up on him. She continues to accept all the excuses he gives.
Within herself, she feels she can not walk away and stays in the relationship even though she is very unhappy. She is the only one making the effort. He texts when he wants to, but eventually he starts backing up and is not putting into the relationship at all as he once did. She is absolutely miserable and left wondering what she did wrong. Finding self worth is being comfortable with who you are. Do not think negative thoughts about yourself. Speak positivity to yourself excepting yourself as you are. Accept that you have flaws; we all have them. You must learn to set goals and challenge yourself to improve.
Work on social skills to combat shyness or not being able to express yourself.
Low self esteem and self worth have become an epidemic it seems. With such a strong emphasis being placed on celebrities in our society, it is hard to not compare yourself to others. The most heavily impacted are young people who tend to feel very inferior to some of their peers. It doesn't help matters when children are so cruel to one another. Bullying is a major problem, especially in today's schools. I experienced this type situation firsthand with my youngest grandson. He is autistic and it took him every bit of five years to move forward from the damage it caused to his self esteem. Not only the bullying but also the fact the school curiculums nor teachers are prepared for children who have autism. Something definitely needs to be done in this regard.
There are many words for how we feel about ourselves; self esteem, self acceptance, self love, self compassion, self care and self worth. They are all concepts with unique meanings
and purposes. While all of these things are very important, the most vital is our self worth.
By building positive relationships, being kind to yourself and learning to be assertive you can better your self worth. We all have something we do well. Recognize what you are good at and build your positivity about the way you think of yourself.
Your self worth isn't tied to another person, only yourself. Place people where they belong in your life. Your worth is not something you earn, it is something recognized about yourself. It is not decreased because of someone else not knowing how to value you.
Self worth is knowing you deserve the space you occupy without apology or any explanation. The very moment you decide yourself to be worthy, the universe agrees with you. It is a tragedy what people allow to die within themselves. Don't ever allow someone to be your priority while you are only an option to them. This was one of the greatest lessons I had to learn. I know there are many more people out there going through the same things I did with my relationship. Although very hard, my only option was to walk away because I realized I was worth so much more.
Live by choice; be motivated and not manipulated, excell and choose self esteem, not self pity.
I chose to listen to my inner voice, not the random opinion of others.
I chose to be Me...
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